Back Like I Never Left. So What’s New?

Hey mamas, I’m back like I never left. But here’s what I’ve been up to.

Let’s see, where do I start? Ah! I’ve been living my best life.

At the end of 2021 I made a major decision and went back to work. Like full time. I know, sometimes I still can’t believe it.

I had been looking off and on for a couple years and I knew that it would have to be an amazing opportunity for me to jump. Well, it was. And it was time. Financially, we were doing great. But mentally, I needed it and wanted it.

To some it sounds crazy and backwards, and I have even had moments when I questioned my decision sometimes, but it’s been the “break” I needed.

I had become so consumed with being their mom and his wife, I forgot to check on me. I didn’t realize that I was losing, had lost my identity and passion.

This opportunity allows me to bring together 2 things that I love, event planning and networking.

I work in an office with 13 women, 10 of them moms, so they understand when I say my kids are my first priority and I want to be present for them. I still drop the kids off each morning at school and pick them up most days, I’m able to work a flex schedule so I don’t miss out on those “moments.”

So I’m now working for my local Chamber of Commerce as the Coordinator of Events. Right up my alley, right? And it’s been fun. If this move has taught me anything, it’s surely taught me how to ask for help! My village has stepped up strong for this move and I couldn’t be more grateful.

Let’s see, what else is new?

After 2.5 years of house hunting, we finally decided, to call it quites. Because, we’re going to build. I’m soooo excited but overwhelmed already with all of the decisions that go into a custom built home. And we haven’t even gotten past the architectural plans yet…doors and windows and brick, oh my.

But this is exciting for us because everyone will play a part in building our forever home (more about that later).

And finally, I’ve been trying to be intentional about doing things that make me smile often, making memories with my little people and dating more, with my husband of course.

If these last 2 years have taught us anything, it’s that nothing is promised to us. Especially tomorrow so I want to make sure that my family knows I love them and that I’m teaching them by the examples I display. Making sure I teach them to love themselves and be courageous, to give with a cheerful heart and follow the beat of their own drum. Make their own music if needed.

I think that’s the most important thing I’ve been doing. They’re only 2, 4 and 6 and they won’t stay this age forever. I’m refraining from raising my voice and instead offering a cuddle. I’m holding back the desire to throw up my hands and instead sitting criss cross applesauce for some puzzle time. I’m foregoing joining another Board, and instead making a family night. I’ve realized I need them just as much, if not more, than they need me.

So, that’s what I’ve been doing. Normally I would say sorry, but not this time. I hope you, moms, understand me stepping away for a few minutes to create memories and experiences.

But, in my time of stepping away I was reflecting why I started Choosing Me Unselfishly and thinking about you all, each of you. Thinking about what you needed and wanted most and I hope that by stepping back in, I can bring you more great content, tips, strategies, resources, guests, simplicity and laughs. So I’m Back. Back like I never left!

Until we chat again, soon, here’s to choosing you.

Your partner in mamahood,

Verlonda